Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Monday, October 13, 2008
I was driving into work today and listening to the Rod Ryan Show on 94.5 the buzz (as I always do) and one of the topics of discussion was: What is a good age to let your kids go trick-or-treating alone? This made me think back to when I was a kid. I first remember trick-or-treating alone when we lived in West Virginia. I moved there in 4th grade. I can't remember if they went with us the first year or not, but I do know the majority of the time I was there we went trick-or-treating alone/with our group of friends. We lived in a small community in Buckhannon. I don't know that my parents thought twice about it. I remember riding my bike around the neighborhood or roller blading. We rode all over the neighborhood, to the park, to friend's houses. I also remember when we got a Dollar General we could roller blad to the main street, change into tennis shoes, walk across the street, then put our skates back on and head over to the store. We would buy so much candy it was ridiculous. There was also a convenient store on the same side of the street as our house and we would go there too. Icees, candy, soda, the works. But back to my story...the guy was saying something about that his 3rd & 4th graders wanted to go alone with friends. That's like 9 & 10. The consensus was it was too young and for this day and age I have to agree. It's crazy that 13 or so years later that the world is such a different place. If I had a 3rd or 4th grader I would not let them go out alone - there are all kinds of crazies out there. No matter how responsible my child was. Now granted I don't have children at the moment, but I think I would worry. However, I do feel comfortable in my neighborhood. I go running alone no problem. I would say 6th grade would be ok...I guess. Maybe that's something I'll decide when I have children that age, but you just don't know what could happen and children at that age (I would think) don't have great judgment skills - granted most of them at that age have cell phones so they could call, but that's besides the point. Point is I agree and would not let my young child go alone, I would instead hang back so I was less noticeable and they could have fun without the parental hovering.
I just can't believe how times have changed. When I was a kid, we never thought about that stuff and we roamed the neighborhood, played in the streets and in the dark. At night we had to be coaxed inside. We were constantly outside - always playing with the neighbor kids. We would have all the neighborhood kids involved in flashlight tag or a game of some sort. When we got home it was a snack and homework and then outside until dinner. We didn't watch tv until dinner or play video games. After dinner we could maybe watch some tv, but it was usually showering, laying out the next day's clothes and getting ready for bed. Dinner time was a nig time for us - it was a time to sit, eat and talk as a family. We shared our experiences from that day or remembered funny family moments. Weekends it was how fast can I get outside to play with all the kids...don't want to oversleep!! I loved being a kid and I loved my childhood. I know times will be different when I have childern anywhere near that age (considering we're waiting like 4 yrs for kids), but I would like for them to have a similar childhood full of playing outside and having family time instead of glued to the tv or game system.
I have so many hope for my unborn children. Tony and I both do. I just hope when that time comes we can implement all the things we want our children to do, know and learn and we won't be too old fashioned. I hope....
Monday, October 6, 2008
I had a lot of time to think this past weekend as Tony wasn't home due to coaching obligations. I feel as though I sometimes take for granted the time he is home, because I really miss him when he is away. I'm very selfish with our time. I always want to be with him and if he's home I want to be with him. I sometimes have trouble going to do things when I know that he is home. You would figure after 8 years together things would change and they would not be that way. I don't know what it is. I know that it has to get better. I just feel so happy and comfortable with him. He is truely my best friend. I can tell him anything, I can act anyway around him and totally be myself. He makes me laugh often. I love it when we just lay around together and watch tv or even running errands. I cannot believe how lucky I got with Tony. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He makes me so unbelievably happy. Who would have though 8 years ago that we would be married, with our own house and our own dog. I was actually thinking about the day Tony asked me out in High School yesterday - we were laughing about it and how it seems like that was ages ago. We went through our own rough times and we overcame everything. Going to separate schools wasn't a breeze, but we made it through. It was always sad to leave him during our weekend visits. It also felt as though we would never be where we are today. I always dreamed of what it would be like to just have him all week long or for on a Sunday afternoon - to not be finishing up laundry and heading back to school. Now our Sundays usually consist of sleeping in, making breakfast, making a grocery list, going to the grocery store, running a few errands, mowing the yard, cleaning the house, cooking dinner and relaxing in front of the tv together.
I love where our lives have taken us. We have found some great friends that we love spending time with. We have a beautiful, brand new house that we are making our own and we have a wonderful 14 month old german shepherd that we adopted in July. We have plans to travel the next few years and are actually taking a trip to Mexico next summer with our friends. We just got new living room and bedroom furniture and we're probably going to paint this fall. We're looking to get an entertainment center and tv this Christmas. Our weekend generally consist of us spending time together and with our friends and family. Boudreaux just started obedience classes this past Sunday. I just never would have imagined that my life would be going so perfectly right now. I am in love and married to the best guy in the world and everything I have ever wanted is falling into place.
All of this makes me grateful for all the wonderful things I have in my life. A great husband. Great family. Great friends. Great job. Great dog. Great house. So many things....
I also feel that everyday I fall more in love with Tony. It's small things. The way he'll look and smile at me or when he's done something wrong the pouty lip he has and the brightness in his eyes. The way he gives me a full embrace hug and I feel completely content and safe in his arms. The way he smells. The way he wakes me up if I've fallen asleep on the couch. The way he'll grab my hand as we walk through the store. The way we play fight or goof off around the house. The way we'll argue about pointless things then end up laughing hysterically because it's just that stupid. How stubborn he is. The way he laughs makes me melt. When he gets excited about something. They way he acts with Boudreaux. How he helps me cook and clean so I don't have to do it alone. I think back to all the things he did for me in high school and college and all that he put up with. I think I sometimes took everything for granted. He really did a lot for me and I hope he knows how appreciative I was of everything. I love him more and more every day and I hope I can be just as good a wife as he is a husband. I am married to the best guy ever!
I've been feeling down lately and wanted to feel better about the good things I have in my life and how just thinking about them makes me happy and puts a smile on my face. So this is my rant on happy memories, how much I love my husband and all the great things in my life that I am thankful for. My life is on a good and positive path.
So on that note...things to work on:
1. don't over analyze everything
2. don't feel bad for things that are out of your control
3. you are not fat (Tony will like this one)
4. exercise makes you feel happy - so make time for it
5. work on reducing anxiety
6. only worry about things in the present - not the future
7. control frustrations
8. avoid too much procrastination
9. don't worry about the small things (most didn't think that far anyway)
10. have more confidence in yourself